Anonymous asked: I was trying to help someone, but she lied to me. She told me she stopped doing things that would hurt her, but she didn't. What should I do?
First off, that’s really nice of you to try to help someone like that, that’s really sweet.
Secondly, if your friend lied to you, maybe she’s not ready for help, or maybe she doesn’t want to hurt you by having you see the things she does to herself. Either of those hurts a lot, I know. If I were you I would try to talk to her about it, and ask her why she lied to you. Don’t try to force it out of her, because that might make you both upset. Just try to be calm and ask her why she lied and if there’s anything you can do for her. Make it clear that you’re not mad, and that you want what’s best for her, and you want her to be happy. Make sure she knows that if something happens, you’re there to help her. Try your best to stay calm during the conversation, and try to avoid getting upset, because sometimes people say things they don’t mean or don’t think clearly when they’re sad/hurt/mad. Be patient and let them explain why they didn’t tell you. And try to remember that it is very difficult for someone dealing with self-destructive tendencies to be open about it, because they may feel it’s shameful or wrong. (Okay, it’s kind of wrong, nobody should feel like that, but I mean they may think they did something wrong and they deserve it, y’know what I mean?)
Basically, be patient, be calm. It hurts, but really all you may be able to do is make sure they know that you’re there for them when they need it.
Also, don’t be offended that they lied to you. It’s nothing personal, trust me. When I was still in that place, I lied to everyone on a daily basis about if I was okay and if I was taking care of myself or not. They didn’t lie to hurt you, it was to protect you.
Hang in there, love. They’ll be okay, and so will you. Let me know how it goes, and if you need anything else, I’m here.
Anonymous asked: Hi can you help me?
Sure! What’s up?
*tries not to cry*
i feel like complete shit
i’m not “cute” awkward.
i’m “what the hell is wrong with you” awkward.